I do not and never have considered myself the "head of the household" just because I'm a "MAN". My relationship with my wife is a partnership, the both of us working together to live a peaceful, happy life. Not sure what this has to do with attending meetings or not.
I have considered the "nuclear option" and decided against because it would almost certainly cripple me and my family both emotionally and financially.
To me, "just leaving" would be like waking up in the middle of the night with your house on fire and running straight out the door to wait outside and see if any of your family makes it out.
could not have said it better
Ron